What to wear on a first date

If you landed a date with her, chances are she finds you attractive and is willing to give you a try. Once you’ve settled on a time and place for the occasion, it’s time for you to figure out what you’re going to wear.

Impressing her with an attractive outfit is not a substitute for self-confidence or a positive attitude, but it definitely gives her a good first impression and gives you a head start on landing a second date.

Simplistic Success

Fashion wise, what do women look for in a man on a first date? Obviously, opinions vary from one woman to the next but you’ll generally come out a winner by remembering that less is more.

If you keep your overall style simple, you’re guaranteed to give her the right impression and avoid a fashion faux pas, which can be a big turnoff for many women. The trick here isn’t to really change your entire style for that one single date, but rather to ensure that your pieces blend well together.

Simplicity should be a guideline across the board, whether it’s for shoes, sweaters or pants. For example, when choosing your pants for the evening, don’t go for an extra tight or extra baggy pair. Instead opt for fitted pants, which is a compromise of the two styles.

Simplicity is about avoiding extremes. It’s a good idea to be a little more conservative on the first date and then, once you start getting to know the person a little more, you can start showing off the more risqué side of your wardrobe.

Intriguing Imagination

The same concept applies when selecting your sweater or shirt. Stay away from something too tight or revealing. This applies to men with good bodies as well as those who are less fit.

Let her wonder what you look like under your shirt or sweater. Allowing her imagination to run wild is a simple trick that adds an element of mystique while on the date.

There is nothing wrong with wearing a fitted T-shirt to show off your chiseled body, but don’t overdo it. On the other hand, if you’re a little heavier, wear something a little less revealing and camouflage areas you don’t want her to see.

Having a successful first date is all about presentation and your first impression is crucial, so don’t blow it by revealing too many of your physical attributes.

Another quick tip to help you seem like a simple, classy dresser is to avoid T-shirts with beer, sport or rock group logos. You don’t want to come off looking like a frat boy who indulges in booze and sports all day.

So cut the adolescent-mode out and wear something neutral instead. Don’t worry about showing off a little logo that says Hugo Boss or Armani, but as a rule of thumb, stay away from any top with a very big logo or flashy lettering.

If you’re a T-shirt kind of guy, wear a plain black, gray or white one. Plain T-shirts are stylish, simple and basically go with anything you have in your wardrobe. Try to keep the colors to a minimum. For example, if you wear a black Tee, make sure you have a black belt and black shoes. That way, if your pants are a different color, you’ll have a total of two colors.

Fashionable, good-looking shoes are also a must on your first date because they can reveal a lot about your personality, and complete your overall look. Keeping them clean and polished should be a daily habit, especially on the day of your date.

Minimalist Machismo

Being simple on a first date also consists of keeping accessories to a minimum. Women want men to look like men, and keeping accessories down to a watch and a ring or necklace will do the trick just fine.

It’s better not to show too much and let her judge you on your conversation rather than what you’re wearing. For example, if you show up to the date with an extremely tight t-shirt, an assortment of jewelry and tattoos plastered all over your arms, chances are she will be so distracted by all those superficial elements that she won’t give you the sincere chance you deserve.

Her first impression is crucial, so make sure your hair is well groomed and your face is freshly shaven. Another little pointer is to ensure that your nails are clean because the last thing you want is to have her staring at your nails throughout the entire conversation. A clean, neat appearance is a guaranteed bonus.

Finally, ensure that all the important assets are groomed to perfection just in case things go very well and you land yourself a nightcap at her apartment.

Keep it clean and simple and have a great first date.
A classic watch is undoubtedly a man’s single most important fashion accessory. Some more conservative men will go so far as to say that a watch should be the only accessory worn and that anything else is simply superficial and useless.

The modern man, however, can definitely look stylish while wearing a bracelet, chain or ring, as long as he doesn’t exaggerate and mimic Dennis Rodman with hundreds of body rings, a dozen chains and a ring on each and every one of his fingers.

So what kind of fashion accessories should men wear in order to look stylish, without looking over-decorated and tacky?

Decorate your neck

fashion necklace Every man needs at least one necklace in his fashion accessory collection. Necklaces should be bold and simple, not multi-colored, clumsy or overweight. Instead, opt for something trendy like a necklace made up of wooden or plain metal beads.

The beads should be plain-colored wood or different shades of natural wood. You can deviate from plain colors by buying color-dyed beads. Most styles of necklaces are offered in various colors. As a general rule, try to limit yourself to neutral colors that match most of your clothes; that way you’ll be able to wear your necklace everyday with any piece of clothing you have available.

How to wear it

These types of necklaces are best worn with t-shirts or plain long-sleeved shirts. It’s a great way to upgrade or polish your overall look for dress down Fridays, important dates, or even before hitting a trendy nightspot.

Many celebrities have been seen wearing them, the most known being Latin sensation Enrique Iglesias and actor Brad Pitt. It goes without saying that these necklaces can add a little touch of sex appeal and uniqueness to your personal style when worn with the proper attire.

Gold, silver and platinum chains display a classier and more powerful image than beaded or string necklaces. The chain should be medium-sized because if it’s too thin and flimsy, it defies the whole purpose of trying to look stylish… and it might also look effeminate. On the other hand, if it’s a very thick chain, it could make you look like a racketeer.

Metal chains

Choose a chain with a medium-sized diameter, made of real metal such as gold, silver or platinum. Avoid fakes because they are pretty obvious and no one likes jewelry with too much luster.

Radiant jewelry is what you may see Liz Taylor wear, or anybody else with a flashy character. Finally, a little tip on how to wear your metal chain: keep it nicely tucked in your shirt. Leaving it hanging outside your shirt is simply tacky and looks childish.

Rings aren’t only for weddings

bracelet for men A ring is also a popular accessory for men. Wearing a simple ring can be very elegant and stylish at the same time. But for a few guys, taking the ring off could get you in big trouble!

Besides the good old ring finger on your left hand, you can wear a ring on your pinky finger, your middle finger, or for you more daring guys, your thumb. These days nobody really cares about which finger you wear a ring on, as long as the ring looks good and fits the rest of your outfit.

Simplicity and elegance should be your main guidelines when choosing a ring. Silver rings always look good whether they’re plain, combined with black, or mounted with a stone.

The same applies to white gold or platinum. A yellow gold ring, however, can either look very good or tacky and over-opulent. The ring can’t be too big because it’ll seem disproportionate with your fingers, and will come across as flashy.

Furthermore, yellow gold doesn’t match with many colors. So avoid wearing a yellow gold ring with a red ruby stone and a blue suit — you’ll look like a clown. Then again, if you’re living a gaudy lifestyle and money is no object, buy yourself the biggest ring you can afford.

A bracelet goes a long way

rings for men Bracelets are less popular with men, but they can actually make you look good. Once again, the trick to choosing a bracelet is to go for simplicity and classic styles since a man should be able to wear his bracelet everyday, whether for a formal meeting or for an informal get-together.

Preferably, bracelets should be firmly fitted around your wrist; this will avoid the bracelet from swinging as well as the annoying noise caused from flicking it up and down your arm. Most stylish bracelets are made of valued metals such as gold (white or yellow), silver and platinum.

Woven bracelets, however, are mostly seen on surfer/skater styled teenagers, or on men on the beach enjoying a summer vacation. Basically, these reflect a younger and more outgoing image than the traditional steel bracelet and should only be worn for casual events like a beach vacation, a beach party, or for your Sunday motorcycle drive.

Specific people wear leather or beaded bracelets; like the woven bracelet, these should be worn on non-formal occasions.

Earrings are for…

We cannot talk about fashion accessories without mentioning earrings. Generally, women, teenagers or rock stars wear earrings. Again, it depends on the type of work you’re involved in and what image you want to portray. Any kind of piercing — whether on your lips, nipples or ears might mirror a rebellious and unprofessional image.

I enjoy more unusual and daring trends, but earrings on men is something that never caught my eye. So, for you guys looking to spruce up your style with earwear, I recommend you think twice about it. Most women find earrings on men unattractive, and unless you’re a rock star, they might find it out of place.

Remember, you can wear fashion accessories or jewelry as long as they are simple and classy. Just make sure they match the rest of your ensemble’s color and style, and you’ll look like a million bucks.

Don’t be afraid to try new things and keep on looking good!

The First Date Ideas

So you’ve made contact with a very interesting Match.com member, but you’ve been putting off meeting face-to-face. Things are fine as they are, you tell yourself. I’ll feel too much pressure if we actually meet; we’ll have to decide to keep seeing each other or not. What if only one of us wants to? Or neither of us? It’s risky, and it jeopardizes our current connection.

Reality check! You’re both at Match.com for a reason. Maybe both of you will decide to see each other again, and maybe this is the match you’ve been waiting for. And after all, with Valentine’s Day this week, it’s a great opportunity to make your first date.

Do’s

1. Be on time. Don’t you dare worry about appearing too eager if you’re the first one there. And fashionably late only applies to parties. Concentrate on being polite, considerate and respectful during this first date.

2. Wear what you said you’d wear. Don’t fib so you can have the advantage of seeing your date without being seen; it’s cowardly and rude. If you’re a clotheshorse, don’t choose a “better” outfit at the last minute. All the outfits in the world won’t change who you are.

3. Ask questions. I’m not talking about an interrogation, but everyone is flattered when asked about their interests. Ask leading questions and listen attentively; there may be a test later.

4. Answer questions. Let your personality shine through with your responses, and remember that optimism is more attractive than pessimism. Stay positive.

Don’ts

1. Don’t be selfish. A monologue is not a conversation. If you do all the talking, your date will be bored. You’ll bore your date if you don’t talk enough too. Your goal should be to create a fairly balanced exchange.

2. Don’t order messy foods. Some of us can’t help ourselves when faced with spaghetti sauce, melted butter or blueberry pie. A food stain on yourself may be “charming,” but splattering your date with food is a definite dating don’t.

3. Don’t be rude if you decide your date is a dud. Unless you want to rack up some bad dating karma, be honest but gentle. “I don’t think we’re as compatible offline as I thought,” should suffice. Don’t say you’ll call if you know you won’t.

4. Don’t play coy. If you’re interested, say so — even at the risk of rejection. No guts, no glory.

Some more points to consider:

Choose somewhere easy
Avoid crowded places on your first date so you can spot each other easily. Maybe wear something distinctive, although you’ll probably want to avoid the carnations or silly hats.

Tell a friend
Always tell a friend where you are going, and meet somewhere public for your first date. It’s also best to make your own way to and from the venue – don’t get your date to pick you up. After your first meeting, if you don’t feel comfortable, don’t continue the relationship. Simple as that.

Don’t break the bank
You don’t have to flash your cash on a first date, so why not meet for a coffee or lunch? You can then decide if you’d like to spend more time and money on another date.

Go dutch
It’s sometimes a good idea to agree to split the bill before your date, so you’ll avoid any awkward situations when the plates have been cleared.

Be considerate
If you need to cancel a date, call the other person in good time.

Don’t get disheartened
You might not meet the right person straight away – don’t be disappointed. Relax, be yourself and most importantly, have fun. Every week we attract new advertisers and respondents.

Make it safe
Arrange meetings in public places, eg restaurants, pubs, etc, not in your home. Don’t give your address until you are sure that you want to continue the relationship. Trust your instincts and don’t meet again if you have any doubts. On your first meeting, it is best to make your own way to and from the venue. It is best not to accept an offer of transport. Leave details of your meeting with family or friends when seeing a respondent for the first time. These points may seem over-cautious, but if the person you meet is genuine, they will understand.

Online dating safety tips

Whether you decide to correspond online or meet members offline, please use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct. In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best safety tool.

Start slow: Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely via Match.com Messenger or email, then look for odd behavior or inconsistencies. The person at the other end may not be who or what he or she says.

Trust your instincts: If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection. All correspondence between Match.com members takes place through our double-blind system, ensuring your true identity is protected until you decide to reveal it. Never include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information in your free member profile or initial messages. When corresponding with another Match.com member, turn off your email signature file. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.

Exercise caution and common sense: Careful, thoughtful decisions generally yield better dating results. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy; suitors must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person and pay careful attention along the way. If you suspect someone is lying, he or she probably is, so act accordingly. Be responsible about romance, and don’t fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. If you mutually decide to cross the point of no return, be smart and protect yourself. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention provide some of the most current information available about sexually transmitted diseases and preserving your health.

Request a photo: A photo will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling. In fact, it’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors. If all you hear are excuses about why you can’t see a photo, consider that he or she has something to hide. Since Match.com offers free scanning services to its members, there’s no reason someone shouldn’t be able to provide you a photo.

Chat on the phone: A phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. Consider your security and do not reveal your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a cell phone number instead or use local telephone blocking techniques to prevent your phone number from appearing in Caller ID. Only furnish your phone number when you feel completely comfortable.

Meet when YOU are ready: The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It’s possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can’t logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your instincts.

Watch for red flags: Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. You should be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following behavior without providing an acceptable explanation: Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc. Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy. Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions. Appears significantly different in person from his or her online persona. Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

Meet in a safe place: When you choose to meet offline, always tell a friend where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with your friend. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time with many people around, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present, is often a fine choice. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.

Take extra caution outside your area: If you are flying in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.

Get yourself out of a jam: Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger, call the police; it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you. While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web, you’ll also find them in nightclubs and offline dating services, cocktail parties or even sitting across from you at your local café.

Regardless of where you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity, but a little caution will reduce your risk in matters of the heart.

5 things about men that attracts women

There are some things in men that attract most women. According to science, the following traits in men usually attract women. There are some exceptions, of course.

Height

Research conducted at Rice University and the University of Northern Texas found that most people prefer dating a taller man than themselves. Tall men are regarded as attractive in most cultures as well.

Deep voice

Women are attracted to deep and husky voice. Deeper voice is a reflection of strong physique to most women. So, a guy who has a deep voice has a better chance of attracting women.

An athletic body

Women prefer a ‘V-shaped’ athletic body on a man. These are men who have a well-defined upper body and a narrow waist. They also like men putting on clothes that fit their body perfectly showing off their muscles.

Sense of humor

Women like guys who have a good sense of humor. If a guy has a good sense of humor, then it indicates that the guy is both intellectual and socially intelligent. An intelligent man will protect a woman more. So, women feel more secure with a man with good sense of humor.

Social value

Women love men who are socially active. They like to see men who hang around with other men and women, who go to parties and other social gatherings.

All these traits in men have been confirmed to attract women. These findings are based on research results. So, men should be aware of these traits if they want to attract women.

5 reasons why women leave their husbands

According to statistics, women file for most of the divorce. Common causes why men leave marriage are due to lack of intimacy or meeting another woman. But women file a divorce for different reasons. Here are some of the reasons why women leave their husbands.

No emotional connection

First, women need to feel emotionally connected to their husband. Then the feeling for sex grows. But in the case of men, everything starts from intimacy. Women look for companionship outside their marriages because of lack of emotional connection. A successful husband knows the likings and dislikings of his wife.

Finance related differences

There is a difference in the way husband and wife manage the finance. Wife wants to save more money and wants to stay away from debt. They want to make risk-free investments. Husbands, on the other hand, want to take risks with his money. They also tend to spend more freely.

When husband is not engaged with family

If the husband works long hours and doesn’t give time to family, then wife starts to question whether the husband is responsible enough or not. When there are children at home, the situation gets worse.

Not able to resolve conflict

Disagreements happen in marriages, but not all the time. Whenever two people disagree on something, they should discuss that problem and resolve it. If the husband is reluctant about talking it over, then it affects marriage.

Controlling behavior

In a marriage also, the husband must give importance to the wife’s freedom. You should not forget that you are two separate people with different interests trying to find common ground. So, you should not control one another.

If you can keep your spouse happy, then you will have a happy life. Wives are more compromising than husbands in most of the cases. But these are some things that wives don’t compromise on.

 

Top 5 tips to date an Indian woman

When you date an Indian woman, you have to be very sophisticated. You will have to be more cultured as well. If you are thinking of dating an Indian woman, you need to consider these tips.

Try to impress the girl’s family

Dating an Indian woman involves her family. Unlike the western culture, kids don’t get out of the home as soon as they finish college. Families live together in India, even after marriage.

Be prepared to get scrutinized

Indian girls have very strong moral values. One thing they will look for in you is your human values. No matter how wealthy you are, if you don’t have the human values, you won’t be able to impress an Indian girl.

Show that you are responsible

In Indian culture, men are the head of the family, so they need to assume responsibility. So, you need to show that you are responsible if you want to get an Indian girl.

Continue wooing her even if she show reluctance

Indian girls are very shy. This is because in many places in India, having a boyfriend is not allowed. So, at first she will show reluctance, but as you keep trying, things will be easier.

Show that you are interested in her

You should switch off your mobile and other distractions when you are with her. You would listen to her, ask her questions and look at her face. This will show that you are interested in listening to her.

Indian women are different than women of the western society. Things are changing, but still, there is a cultural differnce. You should remember that Indian women are conservative and you should take things slowly.